takde takpe: one.

i kinda like it that the checklist getting shorter.
it also meant the days are nearing and to a certain extent, i just want to get this whole prep over with.

initially, a longgggg list was born, after compiling ideas from various sources. abz and i adjusted that list to suit a pinterest malay wedding. we improved further to suit our budget projecthun.

we realized, that we do not have to have the attitude "i'll have what they are having (for their wedding)". necessities vs wants vs trends, we wont be having the following for our projecthun affairs.
however, if your wedding do have them, we are happy for you and wish you the best in coordinating your time and energy.

1) a whole line-up of bridesmaids and best-men

to much extent, i think this is highly pinterest-influenced - all the images and colors.
i am one with small circle of friends, hence having a group of bridesmaids was never a must for me. it helped that abz too, doesn't need a group of best men on his side.
the one gal pal i have is faeO, the closest to me. she's been with me the past few years - we've seen each other cried and laughed, loved and hated each other. i figured there would be no better person to be my bridesmaid/event runner/operations manager other than her.
my other girlfriends asked if i have a specific color for them to wear for the reception. i don't, but i do tell them that they can wear their own color theme although they're not assigned to be bridesmaids. escuses to buy kain for bajus, why not!
abz, on the hand, have his buddy in mind to be his best man. guys are more… laid-back in such matters, so i leave it to him to decide his best man.
ive read how some btbs planned/are planning in detail for their bridesmaids and best men - from the proposals to the outfits' designs to the bridesmaids' kits etc. im truly amazed at your enthusiasm and energy! :)

2) chiavari chairs aka tiffany chairs

does it matter? yes, it looked nice - to me, it gives the English wedding vibes.
my appointed decor asked if we wanted her to source tiffany chairs for my venue, in which i gave an instant no. she laughed, saying "dah research ah ni pasal tiffany chairs." well of course. unless you wanna supply these chairs for free, we will gladly pass.
yes its nice, but unnecessary additional costs wont do for us. anyway the venue of the receptions have their chairs and seat covers. this, we can easily forgo because its obviously not a necessity for us. 
but hey, if you have rented chiavari chairs for your wedding, good for you :)

3) save-the-date/pre-wedding shoot

we have not officially released our dates, and are prolly not doing so until the a couple months before. we don't see the need for a pre/save-the-date photo shoot because
(1) added photo shoot equals to added cost,
(2) the dates are fairly easy to remember and
(3) we are having small receptions.
since we are not doing an elaborated wedding, this pre-shoot isn't really a want to start with. the idea of having a pre-wedd shoot, the wedd-event shoot, a post-wedd shoot... how many days of shooting is that?? a shoot in the pocket tak kira?
howwwever, im thinking of doing up a Save The Date image (so i can send via whatsapp, hehee) as a early reservation for my guests to, you know, block their date.

QUESTION: how many months/weeks/days in advance is it before one send out this Save The Date info? 

4) a wedding hash-tag

is this the trend now?
i noticed couples are now combining their names or significant labels and turning the name into hashtags for themselves. no offense ya to those who have hash-tags for your weddings.
this had never in fact, crossed our minds. we didn't think our wedding affair to be a trending topic in the social media. this is by far, projecthun's trivial matter. hahah.

how did we decide to not have these? these are our considering factors:
1) is it a necessity or a want or a waste, or simply a trend;
2) the added time, expenses and energy spent on it; not just yours but other people involved (eg the photographer, the designer etc);
3) what are its use or what does it do after the wedding.

its very tempting to have a certain 'that' at my wedding too; which girl wont want a Pinterest-influenced or a dream wedding or a theme wedding? bring in all the Pinterest/WeHeartIt/Etsy wedding related images, i would gleefully smile and have bubble thoughts for projecthun. yet at the same time, that is only achievable if i have the financial luxury, and obliging folks (this part, a sigh).

given that its a lot more coming after the wedding, such as the house and the renovation, i guess its better to keep our feet on the ground for the wedding.

so yeah, for us, these things... takde takpe.
:)