myob tyvm.

i chanced upon this article on Elite Daily and Huffingtonpost in my newsfeed, and thought that it couldnt be any more appropriate: 

"this is just a friendly P.S.A. that people's reproductive and procreative plans and decisions are none of your business."

read here
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these days, being concerned and being nosy is a very thin line. 
its hard to differentiate and its harder to tell off those overly concerned people that they are poking too deep into a matter that isn't their concern. 

i have definitely gotten people asking me whether i already have (a baby in the womb) or not, or do i have any 'filling (of a baby)' or not, etc. i don't mind general questions like these, because i too, will answer generally. "oh yes ive had my fill (of food), thank you." or "i just showed you my baby (cat)!". the person are likely to reply "oh come on, for real now!" 
i will then end with a simple "Insya Allah ada, doakan ye." and repeat this line at their persistent queries.

i did also, ever had a relative from the other side who went further on how i should look into other options for pregnancy. the audacity! she went on about the costs of other conceiving methods. a colleague even advised me what to do/eat before and before intimate moments. say whuuttt?!?! its bad that i had to listen to those, its worse that i cannot tell them off because i am supposed to respect elderly and im not supposed to be sensitive over comments by some auntie, right? pfffffft. 

yes, we all know this is a test for couples who hadn't reached the makcikpakcik stage. society will never be able to draw a line when they should stop probing. yet it takes two to make a conversation as pleasant as possible. 

just.dont.be.kepo.please.

"If a person wants to let you in on something as personal as their plans to have or not have children, they will tell you. If you're curious, just sit back and wait and let them do so by their own choosing, if and when they are ready."